Hunger for motivation

Dear Friends,
As we are a social creature we want appreciation. It works as a fuel of motivation. And that motivation takes you to the heights of your career.
Irony is that people don’t appreciate. Few words of appreciation can do wonders. Just observe next time or recall from your past memories when you appreciated somebody. What was the immediate reaction of the person? He would have definitely given you thanks as well as his opinion about you have got changed.

My learning from this issue:-
1. Start appreciating people they will become your friends forever.
2. They might do wonders because of your appreciation.
3. Appreciation should not be inspired by your selfishness.( otherwise it will be called cajoling)

Two sides of this issue:-
First one is negative; some people have a habit of self appreciation, whenever they talk to somebody they search for the points of self appreciation.
Another side; “if somebody cannot appreciate himself then how can he appreciate others” (Believe in you).
I am aware that every coin has two sides, but my confusion is about which side should be given more emphasis?